SIDS, PTSD, Abuse, and My Concrete Angel

My SIDS Angel

My SIDS Angel

This week has been a difficult one for me, and I find I am struggling even with the smallest of tasks. Yesterday, November 15, 2013, was my tiny angel’s 20th birthday. Instead of blowing out his candles, gorging himself on cake, and eagerly opening presents with his Mom, he celebrated with his heavenly Father. My son passed away almost 20 years ago, he was 9 weeks and 6 days old, from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (S.I.D.S.). I continue to feel the pain just as I did the day he died. A while after my sweet baby passed away, I was at a mall, and through a store window I saw a beautiful concrete angel. It was a figure of an angel holding a baby angel in it’s arms. The look on both of their faces appeared so peaceful that it brought me to tears. I decided right then I wanted to gift this same peace to my baby. The angel was encased in a clear resin container, and the container then attached to my sons headstone to watch over him. One day over 15 years ago the angel became dislodged, someone took it to repair it, and it has never returned to my son’s headstone or my hands again.

I am having so much difficulty with sadness and my PTSD during this time of my son’s birthday and the holidays. My level of anxiety is staggering, intrusive thoughts are many, and my self-doubt seems to be through the roof. Sleep seems to evade me, without nightmares that is. Maybe it’s because of his birthday, the impending holidays, a controlling boss, or maybe it’s just me. I often have days or weeks like this, but as always, this too shall pass. I find that some of the long-term effects of being abused as both a child and an adult can lay dormant for periods of time, only to resurface at varying times without warning. I figured I would take this opportunity, close to Thanksgiving, to thank all whom have given me these unpredictable recurrent gifts that will no-doubt last a lifetime. However, I am putting you all on notice that I will forever be working on trying to exchange them for peace as it will fit me better. Patience is a virtue, and persistence pays.

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Posted on November 16, 2013, in Abuse, Shared Stories and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Holidays and anniversaries can be tough for those of us who have suffered deeply, or tragically lost someone we loved, or both. It is so important to know that your own mind can do wonderful things for your spirit, if you let it. Recently, I was under a dark cloud, for like three weeks (I wasn’t letting my own mind work it’s magic), and I finally had enough of it. I went to TJ Maxx, bought the cutest little baby clothes and toys, and dropped them off at the Domestic Abuse Women’s Shelter, near my house. Knowing that abused mother’s are safe with her children during these times, and that my small offering of love will bring heart smiles and joy to the kids, immediately put me in the Spirit of Christmas and instantly reworked my hurting soul, into one shining and healthy. I send positive energy your way, in hopes that you too, will be able to see the power of the mind ,and have the happiest Christmas EVER..

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